Four Things | A Modern Shore Life

Could the title of this post BE any more vague? (Chandler? Is that you?)

Honestly, this post is the random mishmash that it is because I’ve been having some writers block lately. I have been having trouble getting my words onto paper but that doesn’t mean I don’t have a lot of things to tell you! So here is my attempt at talking about lots of different things in one post while also hoping you get to know me a bit more!

And yes, I am fully aware that some of these things are a bit random, but some I need your advice on and some are just life updates for you- one in particular I haven’t shared with many people in my life at all.

Plus, it’s a nice way to introduce my blog to any newbies from the Runaway Bridal Planner Blog Hop

1. If you’re VERY new here (hi!), you might not know that I have a 3 year old son and am an army wife.

The very first photo we took together, aww :P
The very first photo we took together, aww 😛

If you’ve visited the blog before, you most likely already know that, but you probably don’t know the story of when we met! It was the end of my senior year in college. He wasn’t in college, he’s old. 😉 Well six years older than me, but to my 21 year old self, he seemed to have that sexy, mature older man vibe! So, imagine this: you’re powering through the last book in the Twilight Saga (can’t believe I’m admitting that) during a slow shift working front desk at a hotel near campus, you look out the window to see two men in army uniforms walking up to the door. One of them is huge. Like, really big. His size is shocking to people when they first meet him, I swear. So he’s huge…but adorable too with bright eyes and dimples.

For the next week he proceeds to come down to the front desk for quarters to “do laundry” basically every night (I later learn that this was an excuse to talk to me). One day, him and his friend were asking where to go out on a Tuesday night in this college town. I just so happened to tell him my favorite bar to go to on Tuesday nights (yes, at one time in my life I had a regular Tuesday night bar…) knowing that I would be there after I got off work. And the rest is history!

2. This blog has transformed quite a few times.


The title of this blog came about because of where I live. My husband is from Southern Delaware. If you’re familiar with the Delaware beaches, just head west a few minutes and you will find miles upon miles of corn. That’s where I live. I am quite different than many people who live here and kind of an “accidental” country girl, so I wanted this blog to be about me and my perfectly imperfect family.

At that time, I saw all of those Instagrammers posting those perfect fashion pics (you know, the ones where it looks as if they have paparazzi taking casually perfect photos of them at all times) and thought I needed to do that. A whole lot of credit card bills later, I realized I just don’t have the amount of clothes or fashion sense for that, plus I was getting really passionate about fitness and health. I should say, I am not a runner. The cardio I enjoy doing most is HIIT at the gym. My real passion is weight lifting. Culinary courses were a major part of my Bachelor’s degree too, so healthy food posts came naturally to me.

So, that’s where I’m at now: a food, fitness, health, sometimes beauty blog. And I’m sure it will continue to evolve!

3. My husband is going away in January for 6 months and I am not sure how to handle it. 

Here is where I need YOUR advice. Any military wives out there? He will be away in Missouri for JUST UNDER 6 months (aka just enough that they don’t have to pay to relocate his whole family there too) and unable to visit much if at all. My husband has never left me for that long and 6 months to a 3 year old is like… hold on, doing the math…..a sixth of our son’s entire life.

Pinning him! I was so nervous to be the center of attention for two seconds, I was shaking.
Pinning him! I was so nervous to be the center of attention for two seconds, I was shaking.

As I already told you, I live in the middle of nowhere and most of my friends and family live over 2 hours away. To prepare for this I am trying to decide on my next step. Something that will keep me busy and get me through it. I am thinking about getting my masters, maybe a new job, want to take trips to see friends, get a certificate in fitness nutrition and prenatal nutrition, am thinking about moving and…. well, I don’t know! Let me know how you would (or have) handle(d) this!

4. This summer I had a miscarriage.

There, I said it. Thus far, I have only ever referred to it on the blog as “health problems”. I honestly haven’t even told anyone aside from my mom, dad, sister and a few friends. I just figured it was about time. Now that I am in this BlogHop, I thought maybe one of you might have some insight on this topic anyways!

It happened when the baby was about 10 weeks and there was no real explanation as to why. One thing you might notice on the blog is I have become very focused on trying to help keep my hormones in balance. I’m also doing my research and learning as I go about what I can do on my end to help, especially in regards to nutrition.

In an effort not to end this post on a sad note, I should add that my husband and I are trying to get pregnant again! It has been fun 😉 and I am excited at the possibility, so wish us luck!

P.S. This week I will also be sharing some solutions to a problem my sister and I have: Cooking For Two. So stay tuned for that! 

57 Comments Add yours

  1. Love this!! I’m fairly new to your blog and can’t imagine what I’d do if my husband were gone for 6 months!! i was in a very serious relationship in my 20’s with a man who was training for special forces – those months were super-tough! I kept a journal of everything that was going on, including pictures and notes and gave it to him when he got back. It kept me sane and helped me feel less alone! It sounds like you’ll be able to at least talk on the phone/FaceTime – which will be SO great {though it’s definitely not the same as in person!!} Definitely looking forward to continuing to follow your journey!!

    1. Sarah Vorce says:

      Aw thanks for the advice! I’m kind of bad at putting pen to paper (despite being a blogger) but maybe I can use my blog to document it for him! 🙂

  2. PRAYERS for you about the upcoming 6 months and PRAYERS for you and being so strong and brave in the midst of lost…STRONG WOMAN!!!

    1. Sarah Vorce says:

      Don’t always feel strong, so that’s nice to hear!! Thank you for te prayers!

  3. I love this minimash! I learned alot about you really quick! First , Im so sorry about the miscarriage and I will keep you in my prayers while your husband is gone. I cant imagine how hard that is. I can so relate to those instagrammer fashion pics! Girl….Im right there with ya!

    1. Sarah Vorce says:

      Thank you, thank you! And yes, I still can’t believe I attempted to take pics like that. It was hilarious. I’d much rather take imperfect selfies while sweaty in my gym clothes 🙂

  4. It’s nice to meet you through the blog hop 🙂 I’m so sorry to hear about your miscarriage, I can’t imagine how hard that must be especially coupled with your husband being sent to Missouri for 6 months. From the sounds of it you are a very strong woman and will make it through a better mama and wife because of it. I don’t have any tips for you unfortunately, but I like to keep myself busy when I am waiting for something/someone. Also admitting to your friends and family when you are sad and lonely about the situation will help – They will be there for you so you can talk through your emotions. Thinking of you!

    1. Sarah Vorce says:

      Yes, I think I will definitely keep busy. And that’s funny you said that because I am not so good at admitting to my closest friends and family when I’m sad. I don’t want them to worry! Thanks for the advice, I so need to work on that.

  5. Kim Hatting says:

    OK, we have a lot in common 😉 My husband recently (like, 3 years ago) retired from the Air Force National Guard, he’s a Lt. Colonel.Several years ago, he was deployed to Krygystan…leaving myself and our three kids for almost four months (September – early January) wondering and worrying about his safety. It was tough…the oldest daughter was in high school (and went through her first breakup with a boyfriend). The son was battling through his first season of middle school football. And the younger daughter didn’t know or understand what was happening. Ugh. We skyped almost every night, though, and made it through. I realized how dependent I was on him, and it helped me grow to be more independent (single-parenting is a demanding gig, just saying). Another thing we have in common is the miscarriage thing…I have had three of them. The best advice I can offer you is to talk about it…with a friend, family member, or in a support group. I learned that miscarriages are a lot more common than we realize, and a lot of women actually have them without even knowing they were pregnant. Do your best to stay positive 😉 You are not alone in this 😉

    1. Sarah Vorce says:

      Oh wow! I wasn’t sure if I wanted to post all of this as if I was looking for sympathy but so glad I did because of the support I didn’t realize I needed and now I get to hear from people like you! I hope I can be as strong as you through all this! So happy to hear from you.

  6. erin says:

    Love mis-mashed things. My husband recently took a new job and I couldn’t relocate with him right away because I was days away from giving birth to our second daughter. So our daughter (15 months at the time) and I moved in with my husbands family until the birth of our child and then we all moved to our new city – it was really hard having my husband away a few days a week. We face timed every day and texted or emailed pictures constantly.

    1. Sarah Vorce says:

      Oh my goodness! I can’t imagine, especially during the end of a pregnancy with a 15 month! That’s always my fear that he will be gone when I give birth. I think mothers find strength somehow when it comes to their babies.

  7. Such a cute sweet story of how you and your hubs met. Sounds like love at first sight! I hope sharing your story helps you get through your loss and good luck with the baby making. Nice to connect with you in the blog hop

    1. Sarah Vorce says:

      Thank you, we definitely fell hard fast! And yes, it has been more helpful to share than I realized it would be!

  8. You are an inspiration, best wishes taking on these upcoming challenges! I’m not sure what I would do if my husband had to be away for six months. I travel frequently for work and two weeks is our agreed-upon max. I hope you can use this time to focus on something that will bring you joy and fulfillment. As women we don’t do enough of that!

    1. Sarah Mears says:

      If only we were able to do an agreed upon maximum!! I like that idea, but unfortunately we can’t, that’s okay it’s the life I chose!

  9. HoHo Runs says:

    It’s nice getting to know you through the hop. Years ago after my first child, I had two miscarriages. They are very common but it seems no one want to talk about it. Kudos to you for sharing! I had a wonderful OBGYN who solved the problem and I went on to have two more kids only 26 months apart. I know it will be tough to be away from your husband for so long! I think you are on the right track in finding something that will keep you very busy while he is away. I like the idea of getting your certificate in fitness nutrition!

    1. Sarah Mears says:

      Wow! Yes, I want to go in to my OBGYN to discuss it more, but they honestly didn’t think there was any way to predict this based on me, my family and my health… we will see how it goes this time around though. Thanks for sharing, it’s nice to hear from someone else who went through it 🙂

  10. Sun says:

    I’m so sorry to hear about your miscarriage! But I’m happy to hear you and your husband are trying again for a baby 🙂

    So glad to have been introduced to your blog through the blog hop – I read through your recipes recently and can’t wait to see your cooking for two post!

    1. Sarah Mears says:

      Aw, thanks. I’m happy to hear you have read through my recipes! They are some of my favorite things to share!

  11. Hi! Stopping by from the blog hop! I honestly don’t know what I would do if my husband was gone for 6 months. I have a 2 1/2 year old and a 4 month old so it would be crazy at my house. I give you a ton of kuddos for getting yourself ready for it! Sorry to hear about your miscarriage but happy that you are trying for another. Best of luck!

    1. Sarah Mears says:

      Thanks! I know right, life is crazy enough with two kids! I don’t know how single moms do it.

  12. Aw, sending you so much love and prayers, xo!! I am so sorry to hear about your loss but I am so glad you are sharing your story! My parents live in southern Delaware too, small world!

    1. Sarah Mears says:

      Oh yeah? Very cool! I always joke with people who say they know someone who lives here that my husband probably knows them then because everyone knows everyone! And thanks 🙂

  13. New visitor here from the blog hop! So nice to meet you. (Sorry for the long comment!) But WOW – your intro post to new readers is powerfully raw, uncensored and really great. Thank you so much for sharing these facts. I’m so sorry to hear about your miscarriage. I don’t have any experience with having kids (yet), but I know that is heartbreaking, so thank you for sharing that part of your life and allowing those who can relate to share theirs.

    I also don’t have much experience with my significant other being gone for too long, but my boyfriend just left for 3 weeks for a business trip to Austria, so I have a teensy bit of experience. I can only speak to what I’ve been doing, and you might be in a completely different boat with your son. Right nowwhile he’s gone I’m devoting a lot of time into my blog, creating workouts and recipes for it as well as teaching fitness classes at a local gym. One of my professional goals is to get my personal trainer certification, so I JUST ordered those materials the other night and hope to get in a studying routine soon while I have this free time with no distractions. I think having something to make my brain work, think, and focus on helps to keep my mind off of the fact that I’m home alone for so long.

    Keeping busy definitely helps! I’d say if getting certified in fitness nutrition is something you’re serious about, why not start now? You could make it a goal to BE certified by the time your husband gets back! Best of luck and I hope we can stay in touch!

    P.S. Loved the Chandler reference. I chuckled out loud when I read it. 😉

    1. Sarah Mears says:

      Aw, thank you so much 🙂 You sound like me. He has been gone this week too and I have been blogging like crazy and doing other projects too! Glad you liked the Chandler reference, any time a Friends quote comes to mind I can’t resist 🙂

  14. Kim Teter says:

    Wow I can not even imagine dealing with all of that within a years time. Good for you for staying strong and reaching out, even in the blog world, for help and answers! I’m sure there are tons of ladies who can and will be able to give you some suggestions!! Good luck in finding activities to keep busy!!

    1. Sarah Mears says:

      It’ll be a crazy year! But that’s okay. Yes, its been nice to hear from people on here since I don’t talk to many people about it all!

  15. Though it will be hard, 6 months will fly by if you have something to occupy your time. I’m thinking that the fitness certification sounds like a good idea since you seem to be passionate about it. Best wishes on your journey as you grow your family and thank you for being so open and sharing so personally!

    1. Sarah Mears says:

      Yes, I am definitely going to get that certification. Thank you so much!!

  16. Sarah! Love your post! Thank you for sharing what is going on in your life, even the tough parts. So sorry about the loss of your baby. That is tough. I will be keeping you in my prayers as you heal and for your next baby!!! 🙂
    Also prayers for while the hubby is away! My brother was away for 6 months deep in the sea a few times in his navy career. It was hard not, but we banded together with his new wife and had weekly adventures to help the time to pass! Maybe doing some different activities with your son and making a scrapbook out of it for your husband! And keep on blogging!
    Will be seeing you around 🙂

    1. Sarah Mears says:

      Thank you 🙂 Yes, weekly adventures sounds fun. I’m planning a few things like that so I can look forward to them!

      1. Sounds awesome! Can’t wait to hear about them!!

  17. I am sorry to hear your husband is going to be leaving for 6 months. But be sure to tell him a fellow blogger said, Thank You for his service!
    I grew up in a military family, so I have a huge and deep respect for the military, and their families that make the sacrifices during their time without them.
    Love the story on how you both met, too cute! I love how real and honest you were in this post, I actually feel like I kind of know you now. That is a great way to be!
    Oh, and to make you feel better I was a Twilight series fan too back in the day, LOL I tell people I was into it before the masses, and before it became popular and for some reason that make me feel better about it, LOL LOL
    I do wish you great luck at being able to get pregnant.
    Loved learning more about you in the hop, thanks for joining up and participating in it!

    1. Sarah Mears says:

      Wow, I KNOW you understand. I didn’t grow up around this so I am just learning! Aw, I’m glad you feel like you know me 🙂 That is what I was going for.

      And yes, I SWEAR I read Twilight before all of the hype too haha!!

  18. A Modern ShoreLifr-i like it!

    Health/fitness with a little bit of beauty-yup that works!

    Such a sweet story about how you too met. It is always so cute when you think of the creative ways they get us 😉

    I am not a military wife and have no experience in military life-i wish you luck in that aspect. I can’t even begin to imagine.

    I am so sorry for your loss and prayers that a new blessing will come for you and your family.

    Nice to meet you! How far are you from Rehobeth? I will be there in December a half marathon.

    1. Sarah Mears says:

      Haha yes, a nice mash up of everything I like! I’m about 15 minutes away from Rehoboth. That’s so cool you’ll be in the area!

  19. Kelli says:

    So nice to “meet” you! My co-blogger at is a military wife and she spent a lot of time with friends when her husband was away. Think, lots of girl nights while the kids play. She also joined a MOPS group, that’s where we met. MOPS is mothers of preschoolers and literally a lifesaver for moms!

    I have had a few miscarriages and I understand the pain and heartbreak that you have walked through. Know that this was not your fault! If you want to chat, I’m totally available!

    I adore your blog and will definitely be stopping back by!

    1. Sarah Mears says:

      Wow! Sounds like I have something in common with both of you. It definitely does help to know its not your fault. I actually did look into our local MOPS group but it seemed like a lot of the get togethers were during the day. Is that the case for you?

      So glad you like my blog 🙂

  20. Ryanne says:

    Thank you so much for sharing your story! Thank you to your husband for his service, and you for being a strong army wife! So nice to meet you. I can’t wait to learn more.

    1. Sarah Mears says:

      You are so welcome! It’s been nice to share! Nice to meet you too.

  21. This is a great introduction to you and your blog – I’m in the blog hop too, and it’s nice to meet you! I look forward to following you here! I unfortunately do not have any advice since I’m not married (yet), but it sounds great to use your time apart to work towards one of your goals. Sorry to hear about your miscarriage, but I’m glad you’re on your way to trying again 🙂

    1. Sarah Mears says:

      Thanks! Nice to meet you too. No worries on the advice! I didn’t want this blog post to seem like I was begging for sympathy haha it was just nice to blabber on about a few things 🙂

  22. foodiecology says:

    So much to say!
    1) I’m having writers block, too. It stinks, especially after I was cranking things out left and right last week!
    2) I have so much respect for military families. I haven’t been there, but I empathize. You’ll make it and it will be awesome when you reunite.
    3) I’m so sorry about your miscarriage. I’ve never experienced that loss myself, but so many friends/family have and it needs to be talked about. All the best to you on your journey to conceive again. ❤

    1. Sarah Mears says:

      I know, right. One week I’m on fire, the next- nothing! And thanks so much for your kind words 🙂

  23. Wow! Happy to meet you through the blog.

    I am not a military wife, but many of my friends are (we live in San Diego where it’s very military dependent) and they just enlist as much help from friends as possible. There are also services for families through their bases where they match up families together so they can have a network for help. I’m sorry I can’t be of more help there….

    I am so very sorry to hear about your miscarriage. It is the most awful thing to go through. I had one at 17 weeks in between my son and my twin girls. Horrible horrible horrible. And most people just don’t understand unless they’ve been through it. I am absolutely here for you if you need to talk about it. It took me quite some time to get through the trauma and I’d be happy to help in anyway.

    Looking forward to seeing more of your posts!

    1. Sarah Mears says:

      Aw thank you so much 🙂 yeah it’s really true that you just sit know what it’s really like unless it happens to you!

  24. Love the little love story! You know that he was NOT doing laundry everyday 😛
    I love the realness of your blog! I am right there with you with all the awkward photos! I am no candid beauty queen! lol. My food never looks like a piece from some master chef and my photos are pretty much dim messes 😛 I’m not married or a mom yet, and I can’t imagine the life of an arm wife. But I seriously wish you luck ^.^ Just know even though we are not in the same lifestyle, you are never alone! The reason I started my blog was just to connect with people. I’ve felt alone before and stuck and lost and it isn’t fun! So I hope you don’t feel these ways from the changes happening in your life, because you don’t need to! Take Care girl looking forward to learning more about you!

    1. Sarah Mears says:

      Haha thank god for editing, I say. And thanks! I like sharing on the blog too, it helps!

  25. mrsportiasmith says:

    So brave of you for sharing this! I’ll think good baby thoughts for you – good luck! Great to meet you in the blog hop!

    1. Sarah Mears says:

      Thanks so much! Nice to “meet” you too!

  26. Mandie says:

    I think the two of us would get along fantastically! Though our journeys came through different routes, my blog is fitness/nutrition/sometimes beauty, too! Though I sprinkle in some sustainability and a lot of personal development, since those are passions of mine, too! I too love weight lifting, and also yoga! Not a big cardio bunny here! I am so sorry to hear about your miscarriage, and can’t imagine what you are about to go through with your husband going away! But I think your ideas of finding ways to better yourself while he is gone are fantastic! I am definitely subscribing, because I think that we have a lot in common!

    1. Sarah Mears says:

      Based on your blog title alone, I KNOW we would get along haha. Three of my favorite things… except squats NOT lunges 🙂 I actually had a rough/stressful day and was telling my husband how that means I should probably just do a heavy squat day because that ALWAYS helps! I’ll follow you too because I agree, we have a lot in common!

      1. Mandie says:

        Ha! If only squats had equally good alliteration, then I would have picked it! Big muscles release big endorphins! Get it, girl! And thanks in advance for the follow!

  27. Teri B. says:

    Hi Sarah, First of all I’m so sorry to hear about your miscarriage. 😦 Will send you happy thoughts and prayers as you both try again! Secondly, I’m an Air Force wife of 20 years. Hubs retired 4 years ago because he was going to get sent to the desert for a year and we had done our share of time apart. We have 3 boys and they need their Dad around. I’m not going to lie. Everything that can go wrong will go wrong when they are gone… it’s not always easy and I think if you go in prepared for that, you’ll do great. You learn to change a tire (or who to call), do all the maintenance in your house, pay all the bills, and basically be a single mom. Don’t be afraid to ask for help, make a few emergency freezer meals, and find ways to get some YOU time. 🙂 I will definitely be following you and I hope you’ll reach out to me if you need anything… even if it’s just an ear. Have you seen the Daddy Dolls? We got them for the boys and he could leave a message for them, too!

    1. Sarah Mears says:

      Wow! Thanks for commenting, I will follow you to! Yes, he can be gone for a week and I will get a flat tire, lose my debit card, and the sink faucet will break within one week, I swear! But thanks for your advice, I know I’ll learn as I go. Those Daddy Dolls sounds amazing, I’m going to go look them up!

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